If you're feeling stressed, anxious, burned out,
right now, the first thing you have to do is be honest about it—with yourself, first of all.
Don’t deny it, don’t pretend it’s not there.
Face up to it.
And then be honest with your wife, or a friend, or a pastor and start sharing this and seeking help.
That’s the second step: get help.
You can’t usually fix this on your own, you need outside help—maybe a doctor,
and maybe just a friend, or a wife who can keep you more accountable.
The third thing is be holistic in your approach.
Don’t just think, “Oh, I’ll just address the physical, or the spiritual, or the relational. . .”
but address all of these areas.
Look at all of these areas in terms of causes and cures.
Causes of burnout can be divided into two types: On the one side there is what I would
call life situations, and on the other side, lifestyle.
Life situations are things we have very little choice or control over.
These are events or situations that happen to us: you lose a loved one, you lose a job,
you relocate, you have family conflict.
There are things that happen that cause stress or anxiety that you really have no control
over.
On the other hand, there is lifestyle.
These are things we choose, things we have control over: how long we work, how hard we
work, how many days we work.
There’s also lifestyle in terms of financial level we live at,
many people living just beyond their means,
and things like, "Do we exercise or not?", "How do we eat?"
—all these things that we have control over and can make choices about but we’re making
the wrong choices.
Again, often it’s not just one thing, but lots of things that come together, either life
situation, or lifestyle, or sometimes both.
The fourth thing is have hope.
Many have been there—I’ve been there, lots of men I’ve counseled have been there,
and if you use the God-ordained means that he has graciously provided, you’ll come
out of it, so don’t give up.